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CONCLUSION:  Apostle Paul tells us to stay as we are.  If you are unmarried, stay unmarried in undivided devotion
to the Lord.  But if you burn with passion, it is better to marry.  The person that marries is not sinning but they will
face many troubles in life.

According to Apostle Paul, marriage is good but if you can stay single in undivided devotion to the 
Lord you are doing even better.

If you choose to marry, remember that God hates divorce.  He hates divorce because it breaks the highest level of
physical intimacy.  This break in intimacy causes a lot of pain.

If you choose to marry, God does not have one specific woman for a specific man and God does not have one
specific man for a specific woman.  You are free to marry anyone that you wish, but they must belong to
the Lord.  

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

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A Second Final Note:  Often, married couples say that they prayed about their spouse before they got married and
God confirmed that he/she was the one.  I believe that God would have confirmed any person that an in- 
dividual fell in love with, as long as the individual was a decent person and loves the Lord.  Also, this
person should not be divorced except for unfaithfulness by a previous marital spouse.

I also believe if a man or woman choose to remain single in undivided devotion to the Lord, God will 
confirm that decision.  You have a choice.

Next week is the conclusion to Specific Mate.

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

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A Final Note:  If an individual decides to marry, Gods standard is to not marry a person that has been divorced un-
less they are divorced because their marital partner was unfaithful.

Malachi 2:6  “I hate divorce,” says the Lord.

Mathew 19:9  I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness and marries another
woman commits adultery.

Mathew 5:32  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to be-
come an adulteress and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Why is this important to the Lord?

Mark 10:6  “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’  ‘For this reason a man will leave
his father and mother and be united to his wife, and THE TWO WILL BECOME ONE FLESH.’  So they are no longer
two but one.”

Divorce breaks the union of becoming one flesh.  It breaks the highest level of physical intimacy 
that was created by God.

If you have already married a divorced individual whose former spouse was not unfaithful, remem-
ber that we live in a time of grace.  God is forgiving and wants to bless your current marriage.  God 
still has an unmeasurable love for both you and your spouse.

Next week a second final note.

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

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In Specific Mate 1 and 2, Apostle Paul made several points.  1) Marrying and staying single are good things, but
marriage will bring many troubles.  2) If you marry, your interests will be divided.  If you remain single, you can
live in undivided devotion to the Lord.  3)  Although marriage is good and being single is good, if you can control
your passions, remaining single in undivided attention to the Lord is even better.

If a person does choose to marry, who should they choose?

1 Corinthians 7:39  A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.  But if her husband dies, she is free to
marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.  In my judgement, she is happier if she stays as
she is- and I think that I too have the Spirit if God.

2 Corinthians 6:14  Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.  For what do righteousness and wickedness
have in common?  Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

These two scriptures tell us that if a person chooses to marry, they should marry a person who belongs 
to the Lord.

Based on scripture, a man is free to marry any woman he wishes as long as she belongs to the Lord.
Also, a woman is free to marry any man she wishes as long as he belongs to the Lord.  If a man or
woman has settled the matter in their hearts and are in control of their own compulsions, it is better to stay single
in undivided devotion to the Lord.

Next week, some final observations.

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

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Welcome to the new readers.  In Specific Mate 1, Apostle Paul says it is good to stay single, but it is better to
marry if you burn with compassion.  It is good to marry, “but those who marry will face many troubles in this life,
and I want to spare you this.”

1 Corinthians 7:32  I would like you to be free from concern.  An unmarried man is concerned about the 
Lord’s affairs- how he can please the Lord.  But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-
how he can please his wife- and his interests are divided.  An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about 
the Lord’s affairs:  Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.  But a married woman is
concerned about the affairs of this world- how she can please her husband.  I am saying this for your own good,
not to restrict you, but that you may live in undivided devotion to the Lord.

1 Corinthians 7:36  If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting
along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants.  He is not sinning.  They should get mar-
ried.  But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over
his own will, and who has made up his own mind not to marry the virgin- this man also does the right thing.  So
then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even better.

So far, Apostle Paul is telling us that marriage is a good thing but you will face many troubles in marriage.  Also,
your interests will be divided between how you can please your spouse and how you can please God.  Apostle Paul
is also telling us that remaining single is a good thing.  Your interests are not divided.  You will live in undivided
devotion to the Lord.  According to Apostle Paul, marriage is good but if you stay single in undivided de-
votion to the Lord you are doing even better.

Our next blog will address who you should marry if you choose to marry.

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

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Thanks for reading.  Let’s answer the following question.  Does God have one specific woman for a specific 
man or does God have one specific man for a specific woman?

Apostle Paul addresses this question in 1 Corinthians.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2  It is good for a man not to marry.  But since there is so much immorality, each man should
have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:8  Now to the unmarried and the widow I say:  It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am.  But
if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with pas-
sion.

1 Corinthians 7:25-28  Now about the virgins:  I have no command from the Lord, but I give you a judgement as
one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy.  Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain
as you are.  Are you married?  Do not seek a divorce.  Are you unmarried?  Do not look for a wife.  But 
if you do marry, you have not sinned;  and if the virgin marries, she has not sinned.  But those who 
marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

So far, Apostle Paul is telling us to stay as we are.  If you are unmarried, stay unmarried.  But if you 
burn with passion, it is better to marry.  The person that marries is not sinning but they will face
many troubles in life.

Next week, we will go deeper into why Paul says it is better not to marry.

Thanks you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff

Specific Mate 4

Posted: March 1, 2012 in Specific Mate

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A Final Note:  If an individual decides to marry, Gods standard is to not marry a person that has been divorced un-
less they are divorced because their marital partner was unfaithful.

Malachi 2:6  “I hate divorce,” says the Lord.

Mathew 19:9  I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness and marries another
woman commits adultery.

Mathew 5:32  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to be-
come an adulteress and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Why is this important to the Lord?

Mark 10:6  “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’  ‘For this reason a man will leave
his father and mother and be united to his wife, and THE TWO WILL BECOME ONE FLESH.’  So they are no longer
two but one.”

Divorce breaks the union of becoming one flesh.  It breaks the highest level of intimacy that was
created by God.

If you have already married a divorced individual whose former spouse was not unfaithful, remem-
ber that we live in a time of grace.  God is forgiving and wants to bless your current marriage.  God 
still has an unmeasurable love for both you and your spouse.

Next week a second final note.

Thank you so much for reading.  God bless.

Jeff